Must Read This may change your
thinking.....
The 90/10 Principle
by Stephen Covey
Discover this 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (or atleast
the way you react to situations).
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WHAT IS THIS PRINCIPLE?
10% of life is made up of what
happens to you...
90% of life is decided by how you
react.
WHAT THAT THIS MEAN?
We really have NO control over the
10% of what happens to us.
The 90% is different.
YOU determine the 90%
HOW?
By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light.
However, you can control your
reaction.
Do not let people fool you.
YOU can control how you react.
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Let's see this example:
You are having breakfast with your
family.
Your daughter knocks over a cup of
coffee onto your business shirt.
YOU HAVE NO CONTROL over what
has just happened.
What happens next will be
determined by HOW YOU REACT.
...
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter
for
knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your
wife and criticize her for placing
the
cup too close to the edge of the
table.
A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change
your
shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your
daughter has been too busy crying
to finish her breakfast and getting
ready to go to school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave
immediately
for work.
You rush to the car and drive your
daughter to school.
Because you are late,
you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30
mph speed limit zone.
After a 15-minute delay and
throwing $60.00 traffic fine away,
you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the
building
without saying goodbye.
After arriving the office 20 minutes
late,
you realize your forgot your
briefcase.
Your day has started terrible.
As it continues, it seems to get
worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find a
small wedge
in your relationship with your wife
and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the
morning.
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Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is: D
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You had NO CONTROL over what
happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5
seconds
is what caused your bad day!
>>>
Here is what could have and should
have happened.
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Coffee splashes over you.
Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say:
"It's okay, honey, you just need to
be more careful next time."
Grabbing a towel, you go upstairs
and change your shirt.
You grab your briefcase, and come
back down in time to look through
the window and see your child
getting on the bus.
She turns and waves. You arrive 5
minutes early and cheerfully greet
the staff.
...
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.
Both started the same.
Both ended different.
WHY?
Because of how you reacted.
You really have no control over
10%
of what happens in your life.
The other 90% was determined by
your reaction.
.
.
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Absolutely everything we do, give,
say or even think,
It's like a Boomerang.
It will come back to us.
If we want to receive, we need to
learn to give first...
Maybe we will end with our hands
half empty, but our hearts will be
filled with love.
And those who love life,
have that feeling marked in their
hearts...